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  • “Electromagnetic cuddles” have you ‘checked – in’ with your body?

    Now that the vaccinations for COVID-19 are rolling out – and activities have begun to open up while we are still ‘social distancing’ – I checked in with my body.  We, my body and my ‘Self’, have so longed to talk with, touch, and be touched by others since this Pandemic began.  Yet, there was a sense of stagnation and caution.  “How do I go about this?”, I asked.  I felt the impulse to hug, to let my unbridled joy be expressed when I met my good friends, yet caution held me back:  I felt the ‘stuck-ness’…..

    We are surrounded by an electromagnetic force and our organs are constantly pulsing; energy is produced, and is stored in our molecules, the effects of which can been noticed in the brightness of our eyes, the tone of our voice, and our demeanour amongst other ways.

    When move to be physically close to another, our individual electromagnetic energies interact with each other forming electric currents, and energy is stored from these electromagnetic ‘cuddles’.  When we interact with others, our molecules move; we produce e-motions, and together we produce an energy that is bigger than the 2, 3 or more of us.

    Having been relatively isolated from most people in the world, my energy, like a car that has not been driven for some time, felt like moving in molasses.  What to do?

    Bioenergetic therapists use themselves as ‘Therapeutic Tools’ when relating to clients.  We have trained to sense the electromagnetic force surrounding, within, and amongst people.  We facilitate our clients’ e-motional expressions and development, by listening to their story, while observing their body language.  We create movements specifically designed to facilitate the body to get unstuck, to follow its impulse.  Consequently, people can feel more alive and effervescent. 

    Adela Gorodzinsky, R.P., M.Ed. CBT,CCC

  • Expectations

    By: Adela Gorodzinsky, CBT, R.P.

    “Whatever it is you’re seeking, won’t come in the way you expect it”   by Haruki Murakami

    How many Mothers’ Days have you woken up expecting certain things to happen – either for yourself, or from you towards others?

    How many times, while in relationship, have you expected your significant other to fulfill your certain needs, only to be disappointed because what you were expecting did not happen, or did not happen in the way you wanted it to happen? 

    My experience has been that when I have and think about an expectation, it usually does not work for me.  However, when I take the time to notice what my body is feeling and listen to the messages it is giving me, I ‘ground’ in reality and I know that I can trust.  

    Yes, I can trust that whatever happens, in any way it may happen, I am going to be OK.  Once I can ground myself in trust, the miracle occurs; yet not at the time that I wanted it, but at the time that I needed it!

    Bioenergetics has taught me to manage anxiety, fear, sadness and even excitement and joy.  Doing my daily Bioenergetic exercise routine, including: stretching; grounding; and emotionally connected movement, it has trained me to feel at peace.

  • Trauma into the body- Healing into relationship

    With Violaine De Clerck, Certified Bioenergetics Therapist and International Trainer.

    The trip to get to Montreal this February, in the middle of a snow storm, gave some participants the opportunity to try out our self-soothing techniques and to draw on our inner resources to stay calm and grounded.  Most of the flights to Montreal were cancelled on the day of our actual scheduled flights.   The morning text on my phone read:” AC flight 1960CANCELLED.  Reason: weather”.   Nothing else!I felt dumbfounded and isolated.   After a few minutes, I called Ann and Carol.  What made it easier for me to cope with the sudden change was The sense of CONNECTION.
    Once I spoke to my peers, my frontal cortex connected with my amygdala and I knew what to do next.  Amazing!  That was the topic of our Trauma workshop with certified Bioenergetic  psychotherapist and trainer Violaine De Clerck.
    The group of 12 participants was led into a grounding dance every morning.  Boy oh boy, if we were not feeling our legs before that dance, we surely felt them after it!
    In her warm way and with a delightful French accent, Violaine described the polyvagal theory and taught us a few techniques that proved to be very effective.  “Surrender to the Mother” was very moving and a new version of “Falling” turned out to be super informative.
    Great discussions were also held on how the borderline personality disorder comes to be.  According to Violaine it may originate in the triangulating of The child amongst the parents amidst an insecure attachment.

    The biggest take away taught by Violaine Was:
    “Without safety, there can be no healing,  and when there is safety, the healing cannot be stopped.”
    To end this blog, I suggest that you ponder on the following question:
    As my colleague Ann asked: “What does safety mean to you?”
    Keep growing,Adela Gorodzinsky, RP, M.Ed, CBT

  • Trauma into the body- Healing into relationshipMontreal February 8-10th, 2020With Violaine De Clerck, Certified Bioenergetics Therapist and International Trainer.

    The trip to get to Montreal this February, in the middle of a snow storm, gave some participants the opportunity to try out our self-soothing techniques and to draw on our inner resources to stay calm and grounded.  Most of the flights to Montreal were cancelled on the day of our actual scheduled flights.   The morning text on my phone read:” AC flight 1960CANCELLED.  Reason: weather”.   Nothing else!I felt dumbfounded and isolated.   After a few minutes, I called Ann and Carol.  What made it easier for me to cope with the sudden change was The sense of CONNECTION.
    Once I spoke to my peers, my frontal cortex connected with my amygdala and I knew what to do next.  Amazing!  That was the topic of our Trauma workshop with certified Bioenergetic  psychotherapist and trainer Violaine De Clerck.
    The group of 12 participants was led into a grounding dance every morning.  Boy oh boy, if we were not feeling our legs before that dance, we surely felt them after it!
    In her warm way and with a delightful French accent, Violaine described the polyvagal theory and taught us a few techniques that proved to be very effective.  “Surrender to the Mother” was very moving and a new version of “Falling” turned out to be super informative.
    Great discussions were also held on how the borderline personality disorder comes to be.  According to Violaine it may originate in the triangulating of The child amongst the parents amidst an insecure attachment.

    The biggest take away taught by Violaine Was:
    “Without safety, there can be no healing,  and when there is safety, the healing cannot be stopped.”
    To end this blog, I suggest that you ponder on the following question:
    As my colleague Ann asked: “What does safety mean to you?”
    Keep growing,Adela Gorodzinsky, RP, M.Ed, CBT

  • Living for the Future

     

    Are you Living in the Past or Living with the Future in Mind?

    Are you living your life with your attention firmly rooted in the past or solely with your vision of the future in mind? Or, are you simply stuck, not daring to look back on a past that might be painful; or too fearful to consider something new or different, whether it be a new way of living from a social or a cultural perspective?

    When we are young our parents give us rules to live our lives by. These can help give us a direction; and as we grow we are generally given increasingly more opportunities to make our own decisions. However, sometimes there are differences of opinion and conflicts.

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  • Is it envy or jealousy?

    In the world of psychotherapy we distinguish between ‘envy’ and ‘jealousy’.

    As the reader, check out the energy within your own body and compare how you feel with each of the examples below:

    When you have something that I like, and I also want to have that characteristic or achievement, I would regard this as envy, and think it is perfectly acceptable to say something like: (more…)

  • Friendship

    Maria, an intelligent, mature, respectable, well dressed and attractive woman, sat in front of me. With a gesture attempting to portray courage, she looked at me in the eye and declared: “I have no women friends, I have never had them and I don’t need them.”

    As I listened to her, I felt deeply sad and somewhat confused. More than anything, I was engulfed by an almost uncontrollable curiosity. Like autumn leaves that are blown by the wind in all directions, so were my questions revolving around my mind. (more…)

  • Living With Passion

    Can you imagine waking up one morning and, just for a moment, feeling you do not have any responsibilities?

    Leaving space for the day to unfold itself… we all have to make decisions at all hours of the day, and sometimes even through our dreams during the night …. imagine that our lives could be carried out with an attitude free of negative thoughts especially about ourselves … … …

    The harsh winter has arrived. Now the family needs more clothing. We need more time to get ready and go to work, study or whatever we have to do outside the home.

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  • A Dream Come True

    In addition to my experience as a Trager Practitioner, I have also been working as a psychotherapist and counsellor at a social service agency in London Ontario since 2000.

    As you well know, our emotions are stored not only in our minds but in our bodies. Or as Milton put it:

    What keeps the body restricted is not a true physical block, but a mental pattern block. It is the MIND that unconsciously directs the function of the body.

    There have been many a time when, during a psychotherapy or counselor session, I have invited the client to do certain movements and/or breathing in order for them to relax, feel their body, ground and eventually gain a different perspective of the situation they perceived as conflictive. (more…)